Personal development in the midst of parenting… is it possible? More importantly, is it possible without sacrificing your family for your own self-growth?
The problem is, you tend to see all these “growth” gurus talking about taking time away to really focus on yourself. Or they recommend you take periods of time to “intensively” focus on one aspect of yourself or another. Unfortunately, that just doesn't work for most parents – especially moms.
Just what is personal growth to the mother? It means working where you are – right in the parenting trenches – and becoming a better person while you're doing it. It's focusing on self development while you're mothering, keeping track of your household, and running your business (or businesses)… even while you help your spouse make the most of his life!
I think the modern world lies to mothers – there's a lot written about “finding yourself” and “being fulfilled.” The past held its mistakes, but in the past mothers were not expected to go off and find a life apart from their family. There are experiences that can enrich a woman beyond her family, however the decision to have a family is also the decision to grow within the role of motherhood, and as a wife.
It's a mistake to think that “being a mom” holds you back in any way. In fact, much of your personal growth is going to happen right in the middle of the parenting trenches. So how do you find life balance while you're in the trenches? And just what is the life purpose of a mother – because it's certainly not what the world wants you to believe.
These things come as you develop as a mother, as an entrepreneur, as a wife, and as a woman. You gain perspective, especially as you strike out to do “something different.” The internet has allowed hundreds of thousands of mothers to be home with their family as they build a business – which is allowing women to realize that the lies of the world are just that – lies. You don't have to cut your children off or even send them away for somebody else to keep just so you can find your life purpose and your fulfillment.
Your purpose and your fulfillment is right here – in your home, in your family, and in your business. The savvy modern woman is able to have a blast taking care of her family and growing a business – right along with her children. As both grow, you'll be amazed at how much you do.
Of course, there are times when you'll feel stressed and frustrated, and really wish for 8 hours of time with no family members needing you – but that's where time management and organization help both you and your kids to be happier and more effective.
Personal development is a process. You're not going to become the woman you want to be overnight. But you can make huge leaps of growth while you're in the middle of caring for your family – don't let anybody, not even “personal development gurus,” tell you that you need to “get away” to grow. Your personal growth happens right in the parenting trenches. Embrace and enjoy it!