Designing Your Life on Purpose

The concept of goals is an age-old one.  The concept of “lifestyle design” is a bit newer.  Both come from the same place, though — creating what you want in life on purpose.

Most people end up getting a job, acquiring some “stuff” and then living out their lives without much direction.  A huge TV in the living room and some frozen dinners in the kitchen amount to their goals.  In the end they look back on their lives and, well, they did get that TV.

You Want More

Face it, when you get done with your life, you don't want to look back on a marginal job and the latest in television technology as your biggest accomplishments.  Do you?  If you do, that's fine — but you're in the wrong place.  Save your time and close this page now 😉

Still here?  Me too.  I want more than that.  I want to look back at my life and know that I lived it with a purpose, that there was a reason for me to be here.

My hubby has told me before that he doesn't feel like he needs a “reason to be here” — that he's just here and that's just fine.  But I know he's wrong.  I'm privileged, and I see what he wants and what he hopes for.  He doesn't want to just look back and see himself on the couch.  He has a whole set of dreams.

I think he's trying to say he doesn't need some “greater purpose” in the religious or humanitarian sense that people often spout off.  You don't need that to design life with a purpose (that can be part of it, though).

Decide What You Do Want

So what do you want?  When you think about your life, what is you want?  Do you want to live in a cubicle while somebody else raises your kids?  I'm not trying to be harsh, but sometimes you need somebody to give it to you straight.

Do you want to build your boss's dream, or the dreams that your company CEO and owner have?

If you can get your dreams while you build yours, that's fine.  Some people don't want kids, some people don't want a family.  That's fine.  But if you look at it honestly, you probably want more.

What do you want?  What kind of lifestyle do you want to live?

I don't want a huge house, big cars, and mixed drinks on the beach.  That's often what the “internet lifestyle” is pictured as, and I don't want it.  I don't want to be traveling the world constantly.  That's not me.

What I want (plus a couple more babies) Photo of us by Ritter Photography

  • I do want to raise my family and own our own little bit of earth (to the tune of a hundred acres of so).
  • I want a dairy cow and chickens, and I want a house big enough for a pile of kids.
  • I want to be able to buy any curriculum I see fit to teach our kids at home.
  • I want to show them great places in our country, and maybe take them to a few other countries over the years.
  • I want to raise them up to be entrepreneurs, to love God, and value family.
  • I want to love and respect my husband with all I've got.
  • I want to tithe and I want to give money to charities I feel are worthy.

That's what I want my business to fund.

What do you want yours to do?  What do you really want?

Design Your Life Around What You Want

I wrote a post on pushing yourself — and to get what you want, you need to push yourself.  It's probably going to take a lot of work to get where you want.  But you're not going to get there if you don't define where you want to go.

Stop sitting on the couch with your microwave dinner and feeling jealous of the people who are making it big.  Get up, get to work, and grab your dreams.

I feel really great because a lot of my dreams are already there — I have a great family and a hubby who will probably let me have another baby :p  I'm home with my kids and I homeschool them.  Sometimes they drive me a little nuts (maybe I see a mother's helper in that future vision…) — but our day-to-day life is so close to what we want.  Right now I'm striving for that house and land and a trip to see the Rockies.

It feels good to have a purpose, to know that it's mine, and to know that everything I do is working towards that.

It's okay if what you want is different than what everyone else wants.  You're you.  What's your dream?  What are you doing to reach it?

Photo by Sarah_Ackerman

Kristen
 

I'm a wife and mother who loves working online. This is my little home on the web. I run Milk and Mud to share what I'm discovering as I run my own business and explore personal development.