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Women and Rejection in Online Business

By Kristen | Enjoy Life

Jan 13
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Lisa Irby of 2CreateaWebsite recently did a video about fear of rejection online and women (video below). I don’t have a camera set up to do a video response, but I did want to respond to her because it’s something that’s been on my mind, too.

I used to worry about making me front and center on my websites and blogs because I wanted to be more private and I wanted my topics to be at the forefront. But I’ve been reading a lot about branding and influencing lately and realized that I needed to be the expert. I want to be my brand :) So here’s a picture of me to show I’m not afraid to show off me and my newbie self :p

I will admit this is one of my favorite pictures of me...

She’s Right

But I do still have insecurities, and I think that Lisa nailed it when she said it tends to be more women that have fear of rejection. It’s really sad, but I think it goes to all areas of life. See I was taught growing up that I should be a strong woman with a “successful” career. That I should follow in the footsteps of certain members of my family.

I had to battle with rejection when I chose a very different path – becoming a mother, and owning my own online business. Neither of these things are seen as particularly “successful,” at least not in my family. The online business thing may become more legitimate, eventually.

Even Online!

But even outside of my family (and I hope I’ve overcome most of those things… or at least learned to ignore “well-meaning” family)… in the online world.

As I launched my blog, I found myself wondering “can I really succeed at this?” This blog is in the internet marketing niche. It dabbles in productivity/personal development.

These are niches dominated by men.

I find myself thinking “can I really be successful at this?”

I don’t want to be successful at “work at home mom” stuff, really, because I don’t want to present information about “all the options” like party plans, consulting businesses, etc.  Most WAHM sites seem to present “all options.”

I want to talk about internet marketing, niche marketing, email marketing, etc. I want to talk about the things that I’ve had success with and the projects I’m still enjoying creating. My niche sites both center around women’s issues so the concern there is not as great (though I have had to learn to stop being afraid to be controversial… I’m just going to end up offending some women with my sites focusing on fertility/pregnancy/birth/baby issues).

But this niche is even more intimidating. The legends of internet marketing are men. The “Gurus” are men.

Encouragement

So yes, Lisa, I do think fear of rejection is worse. I do wonder “are men going to listen to me?” “are they going to discount me because I’m not a guy?”

It’s women like Lisa Irby and Ana Hoffman that make me think, yeah, a woman can be massively successful at this. I love the cool, calm authority that Ms. Ilene has, the way she gets attention from top experts with her innovative projects. I like Brankica’s spunk and timely articles. I remind myself that women can be and are successful – even when they speak out with their own unique, confident voices. I’m looking forward to developing mine.

Here’s Lisa’s video below: What do you think about fear of rejection online?

Photo by HeyRocker

About the Author

I'm a wife and mother who loves working online. This is my little home on the web. I run Milk and Mud to share what I'm discovering as I run my own business and explore personal development.

Brankica January 13, 2012

Kristen, this is amazing. First, thank you so much for mentioning me, it means the world to me to know that someone finds my blog useful :)

Second, I bet that is the best photo of you, it looks like a miracle!
I don’t even have to think twice before I say that you already made it and here is to an even bigger 2012!!

    Kristen January 13, 2012

    Brankica, thank you for taking the time to comment here and on G+! I love your blog – your posts are so helpful and so real (I just got a Pinterest invite so I am heading over to re-read your guide again tonight ^.^) I’ll give a cheer for 2012 being an awesome year, too!

Ileane January 13, 2012

Kristen, don’t think I’m silly and I’m not making it up either but I have tears streaming down my face right now. This is so touching. I need to come back and finish my comment because I don’t want the people at work to think something bad happened to me because it’s all good!!

brb…

    Kristen January 13, 2012

    Oh Ilene, you are wonderful. Let me tell you, you are just so great! Your videos are great and you just have this warm, open sense about you. Thank you for taking the time to comment. I appreciate what you and all of these gals are doing in the blogging and internet business niches – so many awesome, innovative women to look up to!

      Ileane January 18, 2012

      Hi Kristen, your post meant a lot to me on several different levels. First, I want to say that your picture is beautiful! I think when I was here the other day, I got emotional because I could relate to your reaction to Lisa’s video on one hand and on the other hand I’m amazed at the fact that I’m even mentioned in the same paragraph with Lisa. :)

      But the bottom line is that I really want to inspire and encourage people – and yes – especially women to realize that we have the power. To be honest, personally I haven’t really suffered too much from what Lisa talked about in the video. I’ve always felt that women have a distinct advantage over men and not the other way around. I wish more women would find ways to capitalize on their strengths and move past their fears. It’s great to see you moving in that direction and I thank you so much for saying those wonderful things about me. I hope that I can continue to live up to all of them :)

Lisa Irby January 13, 2012

I had no idea this video would touch people the way it has. I applaud you for being brave enough to share your story. Thanks so much for taking the time to mention me and I hope this video is the start of a larger dialogue. Bravo to you!

    Kristen January 13, 2012

    Lisa, I am so glad you did the video. You expressed something that has really been on my mind. Watching your video was a wake-up call, really, that I don’t need to worry about it. I don’t need to worry about if the “guys” read it or whatever, I just need to be me.

    Your videos and blog posts are down-to-earth and always meaningful. I love how you share what’s going on with you — and how it can help others. Thanks for being brave enough to open a dialogue on this. I think it really does matter and it helps to see that others are overcoming the same insecurities to let their unique voice (and natural beauty) shine.

Ana @ Bounce rate January 13, 2012

Well, looks like I am in a great company here – both in the post and in the comment section!

You said outloud what we all have experienced, Kristen – feeling lonely and small in the world of internet marketing.

And yet look at us: still here, still flourishing!

All the best to you and thank you.

    Kristen January 13, 2012

    Thank you so much for coming over to comment Ana. You are such an inspiration to me. Anytime I need a kick in the pants to realize I can do it, I just look at the comment count on any of your blog posts! You are on fire 😀 Love how practical all of your posts are, and how you share everything that has worked for you and encourage others to emulate you. Your writing and the interviews you’ve done are fantastic >^.^<

Ted January 14, 2012

Go get ’em! What! Becoming a mother not successful. Not in my book! Starting an Internet business not successful? What you have done is open two new doors that will take you on a unique journey and adventure. Good luck to you. Enjoy the ride!

    Kristen January 14, 2012

    Thank you so much for your encouragement Ted :) It’s a pretty exciting journey an I’m looking forward to where it takes me!

Zack Lim January 17, 2012

Hi Kirsten,

I found your blog from twitter and I am glad to read your article :)

You can definitely be as successful as those “Man” expert. Looking forward to seeing you as a good mother and a successful internet marketer.

There are many successful female internet marketers who are highly respected by many people as they consistently give values and recommend good resources.

As the Nike Slogan mention: “Just Do It”

Zack

    Kristen January 17, 2012

    Thanks for the encouragement Zack. I try to remind myself that I do need to get out there and just do it – and it’s the same for the guys and the gals. Best of luck in your ventures, too =D

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